The Ghost of Gibraltar

The first sign of paranormal activity in our new home was a foul smell.  It smelled like decaying food and was relegated to one part of the house; my 9-year-old son’s bedroom closet.  A ghost was not my first guess as the source of this odor. I ransacked his room, emptying lunch sacks, backpacks from prior school years, … Continue reading The Ghost of Gibraltar

JOY – Just One You

  I've figured out a way to have joy in my life and I think this is how you can have it too.  I used to look out the window of my beige apartment, down to the parking lot below and think my life would always be a dark, scary, unhappy place. I thought all my … Continue reading JOY – Just One You

Trick or treat

Years ago, after selling our home and waiting for the new home to be built, we rented a house that used to be an old barn. In renovating, the owners preserved the charm of the barn on the outside as well as the inside of the house.  They kept the old wooden rafters, wood floors, and … Continue reading Trick or treat

Do you believe in Angels?

It was a Saturday morning, and I had gotten there early to beat the crowd, hopefully not running into anyone I knew. Sometimes I like to keep to myself when I do my shopping because I’ve worn my worst pair of jeans, I have minimal make-up on that was put on in the dark, and … Continue reading Do you believe in Angels?

The right question

Remember back in 2014 when Ray Rice, ex- NFL player, hit his then fiancé, Janay Palmer, in an Atlantic City hotel so hard it knocked her out cold? That video is hard to watch as he drags her unconscious body out of the elevator. I remember everyone kept asking Janay, "how can you stay with … Continue reading The right question

You’re worth at least half

What we believe about ourselves is exposed during a divorce. And for a woman divorcing an abusive man, her self-esteem is pretty much shot to hell. You can tell by what she's willing to give up. I've seen women give up houses, cars, investment accounts, alimony, (thankfully by law they can't refuse child support!) because … Continue reading You’re worth at least half

The problem with me and my abusive marriage

Marriage is a long-term commitment and a life time of promise and hope of being together.  The contract and the commitment anchor us to get through the storms of life. In a healthy marriage, that's a beautiful and good thing as it shores us up and provides stability and cohesion for generations. But in an … Continue reading The problem with me and my abusive marriage

Pictured Rocks and A Lot of Good Men

My husband and I celebrated our 17th wedding anniversary this weekend and stayed on Mackinaw Island and then took a boat tour of the magnificent Pictured Rocks in Munising Michigan. On the Island, everyone has the most stunning gardens. The flowers are bigger and more colorful than I've ever seen; like you see in Mexico … Continue reading Pictured Rocks and A Lot of Good Men

The hair barrette

Twenty plus years later, I still remember the shame I felt after it happened. My parents had moved back to Atlanta to run their business, and my then-husband and I decided to visit them.  I grew up in Atlanta so it was "my" town and I was excited to show him the city where I … Continue reading The hair barrette

The purpose of running

Well meaning people say "Stop running from your problems!" And they are right. We need to face our problems. So why don't we take their advice and stop running? It sounds so easy, "stop", like playing the game Red Light, Green Light. But we don't stop, we continue on. We run because it's all we … Continue reading The purpose of running